Family Conference 2019: Parenting The Next Generation
Saturday, 23 March 2019, 9am - 3.45pm, Sanctuary (Level 1)
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$5/pax (Early bird rate ending 17 Feb)
$10/pax (18 Feb onwards)
Children’s Programme (4 to 10-year-olds) complimentary
As Christian parents, our desire is to see our children grow in the ways of God. Through this conference organised by our Family Life Ministry, come and find out how to parent the next generation, and be equipped with important keys for your parenting journey! Join us for our plenary topic, Restorative Parenting For Imperfect Parents by Bishop Terry Kee, then choose from one of five track sessions by various engaging speakers. Let’s learn and grow together as One Family! A concurrent Children’s Programme will be available for 4 to 10-year-olds during the Conference.
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Family Conference 2019 - Sessions & Speakers
Plenary Topic - Restorative Parenting for Imperfect Parents
Speaker - Bishop Terry Kee
We are honoured to have Bishop Terry Kee share with us about Restorative Parenting for Imperfect Parents. Learn how Restorative practices help families understand each other, deal with conflict without always being “in charge”, create shared responsibility to build the spirit of partnership, and restore dignity to family relationships.
Bishop Terry Kee graduated from Singapore Bible College in 1982. He served as pastor in several congregations before serving as missionary together with his wife, Sally, in Thailand from 1996-2004. He obtained his Masters in Pastoral Care and Counselling at China Lutheran Seminary before returning to Singapore in 2006. He was elected Bishop of the Lutheran Church in Singapore in 2009 and is now the President of the National Council of Churches in Singapore.
Track 1 – Dare To Discipline
Speaker - Cheryl Ng
Generations of parents have faced the age-old challenge of helping children grow into responsible adults. Yet, children will always challenge authority to see where their boundaries lie. This track, Dare To Discipline, is catered to parents who need help in disciplining their children aged 2 - 12. It will encourage parents and equip them with tools for firm yet loving discipline, and help them:
• Understand the definition and goals of discipline
• Identify their own parenting and discipline styles
• Gain practical discipline tips
Cheryl Ng currently serves as Principal Trainer with Focus on the Family Singapore, and speaks on family life across the genres of parenting, marriage, work-life, youth and relationships. Specifically, she is Master Trainer for Parenting with Confidence, and helms media interviews in both English and Mandarin.
Believing that children are the future and family the nurturing ground, Cheryl dedicated the early part of her career to pursuing her childhood dream of teaching in junior colleges, before switching her attention to bringing up her own children. Today, she continues to touch the lives of numerous teenagers as an associate lecturer at a polytechnic.
Cheryl was appointed by the Minister as a steering committee member of the Parents Advisory Group for the Internet (PAGI) from 2000 to 2004, and thereafter served on the Publications Consultative Panel followed by the Media Literacy Council. She continues to volunteer with the Films Consultative Panel of the Ministry of Communications and Information (MCI). To uphold the interests of children and families, Cheryl has discussed her work on internet safety in public seminars, radio talk shows and on TV. In fact, she was featured with her family in a television educational docu-drama.
Having been a full-time career woman, a full-time stay-home mum, and also a full-time working mum, Cheryl is determined that what the future holds is founded on what we now build. She is married to Andy with four children, from teens to a recently-married young adult. She brings to every speaking engagement deep insights mixed with strong passion.
Track 2 – Building Bridges With Your Teenagers
Speaker - Mrs Alice Lee-Tok
Have you tried relating to your teenagers the way your parents related to you when you were a teenager? Was the outcome something that you expected or desired?
Building bridges with our teenagers is about a relationship, and one that seeks to communicate. It is a relationship that says, "Let’s talk. I’m here for you." - one that wants the best for our teenagers.
This workshop seeks to provide participants with a better understanding of the teenagers of today, as well as their changes and needs. Participants will also be given practical tips on how they can improve in their communication with their teenagers, and how to manage the many conflicts that may arise due to unrealistic expectations. The topics covered will be:
• The developmental stage & changes of our teenagers
• Needs of our teenagers
• Parent’s Role: Understand, Trust and Connect
• How to use the PSA formula
• Managing conflict by managing one’s expectations
Alice is the author of parenting book "Building Bridges With Your Teenagers". Alice is also a Family Education consultant and training Specialist with more than 15 years of experience in education and counselling, specializing in children and families. She has an Advance Diploma in Early Childhood Studies, Bachelor of Arts in Children & Family Education from Edith Cowan University, and Masters in Counselling from the University of South Australia.
Alice is a family counsellor, family life resource speaker, and certified behaviour analyst. Over the years, she has acquired vast experience in conducting interactive talks, workshops, trainings, and supervisions for singles, women, couples, parents, volunteers/befrienders, social workers, counsellors, and teachers. These include settings such as childcare centres, parent support groups, churches, family service centres, government agencies, Social Service organisations, schools, corporate organisations, drug rehabilitation centres, prisons, and the Family Court, in countries including China, Thailand, and Malaysia.
Alice is very passionate about work-life balance, communication, relationship dynamics and helping / counselling children, individuals and their families in personal developmental issues, as well as work, family and youth-related matters including parenting, marital issues, anger, and stress. Besides conducting training in Counselling and Befriending Skills, Alice also conducts facilitation skills workshops and mentoring. She enjoys what she does because of the difference it can make in peoples' lives.
Track 3 – Parenting Adult Children (I Like My Parents)
Speaker - Rev. Kevin A. Graves
The parent/child relationship is the longest human relationship many of us will ever have. You don’t stop being a parent when you send your child off to college, or even when you walk them down the aisle in marriage. Dynamics may change, but the quality and richness of the relationship you have with your adult children is both based upon the job you have done parenting them up to that point, and the effort and approach you put into continuing to grow this relationship when they are grown up.
This workshop will be largely based upon two chapters from Rev Kevin’s book, "I LIKE My Parents"! Actually, the title of the book is a key to understanding this topic, for you will know you are being successful in your parenting role of your adult children when they grow up and like you, want to spend time with you, and seek out your advice and share a dream.
Discussions will revolve around two chapters in particular: "Can We Be Friends?" and "Old Fashioned Ain’t So Bad", which is about passing on values and traditions, leading to leaving a legacy in your children. Topics include:
• Guiding your children in making decisions
• Identifying your family’s unique values and traditions
• Building a legacy
• “Dating” your adult children
• Having shared hobbies
• Taking shared vacations
Those of us who learn to parent our adult children well will be richly rewarded by one of the greatest gifts known to man: our sons and daughters will bring our grandchildren over often - it doesn’t get much better than that!
Rev Kevin A. Graves has a Bachelor of Theology and Religion from Goshen College, and is a graduate of Elim Bible Institute. He has been a missionary to Asia with Elim Fellowship in Lima, NY (USA) since 1984.
Kevin is fluent in Mandarin and Cantonese and is a frequent speaker at churches, Bible colleges, and conferences throughout Asia and North America. He has been a guest on Joyce Meyer’s programs and other television networks, and has spoken at churches such as Times Square Church in New York City, Cornerstone Community Church in Singapore, and the Bethany World Prayer Center in Baton Rouge. Kevin was one of the presenters at the Lausanne Conference on World Evangelism 2004. He has also been a trainer in Mozambique at the Iris Global base founded by Rolland and Heidi Baker.
Kevin has been involved in teaching and training throughout his years of ministry in Asia. After a number of successful church plants, Kevin and his wife Joyce established Target Ministries in 1990 to focus on the unreached people groups of Asia. They recently moved to Singapore to be more internationally connected. Since then he has also co-founded Family First Singapore, which injects family values into the marketplace through positive work-life balance solutions to companies in Singapore and beyond. Kevin is also on the Board of Family First Global and has helped to establish Family First in numerous nations in the region. He has ministered in 25 nations, and is also the author of two books: "I LIKE My Parents!" and "Roots" (a look at the Roots of the gospel in the Chinese language, history, and culture).
As the Target Ministries team has grown over the years (80 as of January 2019), so has their family. Kevin and Joyce have seven children, ages 11-31, and two grandchildren.
Track 4 – GrandParenting
Speaker - Rev Irene Thung
Whether our grandkids call us Gramps or Grandpa, we can make an impact on them by the quality of the legacy we leave for them as the next generation. This is directly determined by how big we really believe God is. If we choose to live a life that extends beyond just ourselves and beyond today, then we are showing a generation there is Someone big and grand who is worth living and giving our lives for. Our children and grandchildren are watching and learning, from the words we speak and things we do. That is why it is so crucial that we do not grow weary in doing good, do not stop running our race, and do not drop the baton.
Through a godly grandparent connection, a hundredfold will be redeemed in a rich relationship between you and your legacy. Our lives are not only about us, but also about those after us. What type of legacy do you want to leave?
Come and join us for a workshop in “The Grandparent Connection”, to learn how we can choose one or two Grand ideas each month to enjoy with our grandchildren. We can be so busy in the present that we lose the past, which is why it is important to be intentional in our choices. By choosing one or two Grand ideas each month, we'll be well on our way to being a part of our grandchild's life - leaving a legacy of special memories and spiritual stories.
“Remember the days of old; consider the generations long past. Ask your father and he will tell you, your elders, and they will explain to you.” -Deuteronomy 32:7
Rev Irene Thung is married with three daughters and two grandchildren. She enjoyed a rewarding career for over twenty years as a lecturer and entrepreneur in the building industry before responding to God’s call to full-time ministry.
After ministering as a pastor in local church ministries for many years, Irene is currently appointed as the full-time director for the Trac Seniors' Ministry. Her vision is for all seniors to know Christ personally, and be known by Him that they may make Him known to all. She is currently attached as a Pastor to Paya Lebar Methodist Church.
Track 5 - I Am Not A Parent, How Can I Be A Spiritual Parent? (Spiritual Parenting)
Speakers - Albert & Alison Lim
“When they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, 'Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?' Peter said to him, 'Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.' Jesus said to him, 'Feed my lambs'." -John 21:15
The call to spiritual parenting led Albert & Alison Lim to the many who they had conversations with, mentored, discipled and walked alongside, with the intention of bringing them closer to God and realising their God-given potential. The journey of spiritual parenting brought them much joy, and also stretched them much. Building intentional relationships with spiritual children requires an ongoing process of self-growth, and it is a double blessing to be able to watch our spiritual children grow, and grow alongside them. Come and learn with Albert & Alison Lim on how we can draw from God's well to be fruitful boughs! Let us all respond to His call to be spiritual parents and feed His lambs.
Albert is the Board Member of Centre for Fathering, Empower Ageing, FaithActs, Methodist Welfare Services and SHINE. He mentors leaders in the social service sector. Alison has over 30 years of experience in facilitation and training, with a specialization in leadership development. She also serves as a Team Leader in Tacklebox, mentoring youth leaders. Albert and Alison are trained facilitators, and celebrate their 30th wedding anniversary this year.